How many divorced a long time ago and realized now that they "gave up" too easy?

It seems with every passing year as I get older now I realize my kids are growing up, life is still a roller coaster, but I seem to come to the truth that my first marriage I "gave up" on (over 6 years ago) and what was so "bad" or "wrong" back then was probably a phase we both were going through and would have, or probably should have, or at lease could have been worked though.





I think many in my shoes might see my point now and agree with this, come on fess up anyone?

How many divorced a long time ago and realized now that they "gave up" too easy?
I too have regrets about the way I so easily gave up on my first marriage. We had a two-year-old daughter at the time (now she is 10). We had been together for 10 years, married for 6 at the time of the divorce. We were high school sweethearts. I didn't have it in me to cheat, and I thought I was missing something, so I divorced. I eventually remarried a few years later. I now have 2 more childre, 2 and 4, and after 5 years of marriage to my second husband, I found out 3 months ago that he had been unfaithful. This really made me question my choice for my first divorce. But, you can't live in the past, nor can you change it. Learn from it and don't let regret beat you down. If you have unresolved issues with your ex, get them straightened out, even if it is only within yourself. Best of luck!
Reply:This happen mostly when people get marriage when they still young.


put it this way - before you getting marriage, you need to have a clear idea that what marriage are. love each other, doesn't mean fit together.


when two people getting marriage, their life is not same as before anymore. As marriage have much more responsibility in it, and they need to be understanding each other no matter lifestyle, thinking and so on(I think you understand that as you have been though it). Also, sometime love and marriage life though the time become calm and even boring, people haven't got enough experience to handle it, so a lot of them 'gave up' at this stage. All of the problem need to find the solution of them.


Of course, sometime people think they love another, but actually they just used to be together, even the love go by. So after they meet someone after that, they would... (but it is the other situation.)


These are the reasons of why the first marriage fall, as many people haven't been aware of these. and after first marriage, they have a better understanding about the relationship of it, so they would pay more patience to work out these kind of problems. (some people haven't learn the lesson from their first marriage, so they easy to have second, third, four.....)


Thus, if people have clear understanding of it and getting older (be able to understand and due with other people), their first marriage would more likely to keep.


Suggestion: watch the TV program: Dr. Phil
Reply:I agree with you all the way.



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